Monthly Archives: May 2013

ATTITUDE OF PEOPLE TO THE DISABLED

“Ooh! She is the god daughter of the oracle”, “Jeez! What a pity he’s a cripple”. These and many more similar expressions show either what people think about people living with disability, or what their attitudes are towards them. I’ve read lot of books and article that discussed the issue of disabilities. For instance, the book – Elements of Special Education by Peter A. Eyanro – says that generally, most people simply sympathize and pity the disabled. Others discriminate against them everywhere. Some people even treat them with contempt as if the disabled have some sorts of contagious diseases.
This was the case of one Mr. Emogbare who fell down and just could not walk again. What happened to him?
It was polio – myelitis that struck him down. When he eventually overcame the initial depression and shame he wanted to join his friends at play, the friends rejected him. They would not have him with them on the play ground. They just believed he did not belong to them anymore, because of his disability. He was treated by his friends as if he had a contagious disease.
Majority of people in the society do not appreciate the fate of the disabled people. This is because many people do not appreciate in themselves the gifts freely given to them by God. Such as the gifts of sight, limbs, speech, smell etc, and that is why most people therefore, margnalise the physically challenged people, despite efforts made to succeed in life, they are not in most cases rewarded with motivation or encouragement by the society.
Rather, in most cases, people merely pity and sympathize with them. However, not every disabled person wants to be pitied. They prefer empathy – the ability to share someone’s feelings or experiences by imagining what it would be like to be in their situation – rather than being pitied.
Not only that, some disabled people believe that everyone has problems and it is the way one handles them that make one overcome the problems or make the problem to overcome the person. Some of them also believe that in every disability, there is ability. As a result of this kind of philosophy, there are many disabled Nigerians today who have turned their disabilities to stars.
The force or factors that propelled them are courage, determination, hard work and positive self concept.
Where many have reclined and resigned into a life of beggary and hopelessness, some have become international figures. They have proved to all that truly, there is “ability in disability.”
Are you a person living with one form of disability or the other? Do you feel that it is the end of the world? Or perhaps you have a dream but do not know how to exploit the factors that will make you achieve those dreams? If you have these questions and many more related questions, please endeavor to always visit this blog for frequently updated motivational talks and experiences from people who have turned their disability into the envy of all.
…May you mount and soar like an Eagle

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Imagine…our World

Welcome to our world. We would like to hope we will make friends here. We want to tell you about us, what we stand for, and what we hope for.

Every human being longs to feel it is has a friend somewhere and can chat with that friend. The human spirit naturally wishes for company. You know a need to hear his own voice bounce back to him from a corresponding voice. There is the understanding that the first cry of a child at birth was a call for attention. You probably don’t really remember that. But you know it is true, Imagine therefore the response to that first cry becoming a shudder of horror and the imminent rejection of love when a tiny hand is stretched.

Life itself promised nothing much at the first cry of a new born but a promise to present challenges. Man faces those challenges and struggles to identify his first name according to the level of those challenges. In the corner of our world, it might be slightly different so imagine this:

The cry of the newborn, the excitement of the mother as she suckles him, the heat of the room, the crowded relatives as they wonder if to kill the tethered goat and send emissaries to uncles and aunties. Then the naming ceremony, asking for the name of the child from the oracle. The long evenings when the mother rocks the child or straps him to her back as she manages her small farm to support her husband. The child has a temperature and is given some herbal drink. But the temperature persists. Since the birth of the child, they have not returned to the clinic or the mission house. There is anxiety but there is also no money.

Awareness of the importance of immunizations walks on crutches in my corner and now you know, the child becomes either visually impaired of physically challenged. In my corner of the world, he is in deep trouble. There is shame to overcome (as if it is his fault for becoming handicapped), there is confusion from his closest and loved, that is his family. His mother simply withers from within as she imagines a door to hope, peace and prosperity has been slammed shut. Fear and shame become twin brothers that walk in the family and slowly but surely anger at the gods and government.

Welcome to the world of the handicapped in our corner of the universe and the Human family.

Our story is not about gloom and doom. We would share with you stories of courage, enterprise, resilience and hope. We intend to share with you the vision of light in darkened room that made one woman determined to open the doors of life wider and brighter.

We would share the lives of the challenged members of our society. We will share our dreams, we would invite you into our world.

We would continue this conversation with you often and look to you for replies.

Welcome to our world. We would like to hope we will make friends here. We want to tell you about us, what we stand for, and what we hope for.

Every human being longs to feel it is has a friend somewhere and can chat with that friend. The human spirit naturally wishes for company. You know a need to hear his own voice bounce back to him from a corresponding voice. There is the understanding that the first cry of a child at birth was a call for attention. You probably don’t really remember that. But you know it is true, Imagine therefore the response to that first cry becoming a shudder of horror and the imminent rejection of love when a tiny hand is stretched.

Life itself promised nothing much at the first cry of a new born but a promise to present challenges. Man faces those challenges and struggles to identify his first name according to the level of those challenges. In the corner of our world, it might be slightly different so imagine this:

The cry of the newborn, the excitement of the mother as she suckles him, the heat of the room, the crowded relatives as they wonder if to kill the tethered goat and send emissaries to uncles and aunties. Then the naming ceremony, asking for the name of the child from the oracle. The long evenings when the mother rocks the child or straps him to her back as she manages her small farm to support her husband. The child has a temperature and is given some herbal drink. But the temperature persists. Since the birth of the child, they have not returned to the clinic or the mission house. There is anxiety but there is also no money.

Awareness of the importance of immunizations walks on crutches in my corner and now you know, the child becomes either visually impaired of physically challenged. In my corner of the world, he is in deep trouble. There is shame to overcome (as if it is his fault for becoming handicapped), there is confusion from his closest and loved, that is his family. His mother simply withers from within as she imagines a door to hope, peace and prosperity has been slammed shut. Fear and shame become twin brothers that walk in the family and slowly but surely anger at the gods and government.

Welcome to the world of the handicapped in our corner of the universe and the Human family.

Our story is not about gloom and doom. We would share with you stories of courage, enterprise, resilience and hope. We intend to share with you the vision of light in darkened room that made one woman determined to open the doors of life wider and brighter.

We would share the lives of the challenged members of our society. We will share our dreams, we would invite you into our world.

We would continue this conversation with you often and look to you for replies.